The first movie in the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy is about to be released which means the hype is in full swing as is criticism. Ever since the release of the books we’ve heard (and discussed) how Fifty Shades is Abuse. How Fifty Shades doesn’t represent what BDSM and D/s is all about. Let’s talk about the reality of Fifty Shades, how it does represent an abusive relationship but that this is also something that happens in D/s relationships. There are dom/mes like Christian Grey, and this sad reality can’t be ignored. Fifty Shades of Grey doesn’t represent what BDSM normally entails, but it does depict a real perversion of a D/s relationship. (more…)
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Episode 29: The Old Ladies Time Waster Mailbag
Sorry I’ve been away, the last few months have been completely crazy. Things are back to normal (abnormal?) now so I wanted to make sure I recorded an episode. A couple months ago a really unique timewaster contacted me again and I decided to waste some of his time. (more…)
Dungeon Diaries Episode 28: Foot Fetish
It’s about time I talk about feet. Foot fetish is one of the most popular fetishes, many people will want feet and only feet and even more love it when feet are a part of the overall session experience. So what do I think about foot fetish play?
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Intro music is Ghosts 19 by Nine Inch Nails off the album Ghosts I-IV
Episode 27: Why I Love My Job
I don’t have much to say other than I decided to record an episode about the things that make me feel lucky to be a dominatrix. These are stories of lives I’ve helped better and things that just bring a smile to my face.
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Intro music is Ghost 19 by Nine Inch Nails off the album Ghosts I-IV
Episode 25: Food in the Dungeon
I hope the audio is up to snuff in this episode. My throat was a bit rough and on top of that my recording came out really quiet. I tried to boost the audio so hopefully this didn’t boost any artifacts in the audio I missed. This episode is about food. Why I love gifts of food, how I like to involve food in sessions, and some philosophical musings on food based humiliation in things like puppy play.
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Intro music is Ghost 17 off the album Ghosts I-IV by Nine Inch Nails
Episode 23: Contacting a Dominatrix
It’s been awhile, I know! I’m finally back in the saddle with a new episode and episodes should be more frequent for now. This episode is a guide for how to contact a domme. What to do, what not to do, and why you shouldn’t do it. Simple? Not very simple for many people…
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Theme music is Ghosts 19 from the album Ghosts I-IV by Nine Inch Nails.
Collarme Roulette
Sorry about the lack of updates, I recently replaced my laptop but haven’t dug out the license information for my audio software. It’s difficult to record without that software, to say the least.
I have decided to write more until I fix that. If you have been to Collarme.com you are no doubt aware that it shows you a profile when you visit the site. The profile is the most recent person to visit the site based on your search parameters. This can be a lot of fun if you just have it look for very general things instead of limiting it to finding a specific kind of person. After all, who wants to use social networks for their intended purposes? So I like to pick a category: Dominant Women, Dominant Men, Dominant Trans, Submissive Men, Trans, etc and just seeing what profile pops up. Entertainment often ensues. Tonight “DominaKitten” popped up. The first thing I noticed was her journal entry which called our a number of users for being “fakes.” Usually if you get mad about collarme fakes, you haven’t been doing this for very long.
Then I noticed her photos. The profile photo is pretty generic, but she also has photos of her in tiger body paint. One of these features her in a cage. The worst way to look like a dominant is to post photos of yourself in a cage. So, what is this person looking for on collarme?
Financial Slave: Will provide all income and serve me, in accordance to our contract.
Oh, so they just have to provide all income to you. Really.
Foot Slave: Will provide shoes, as well as manicures and pedicures for Mistress and serve according to contract.
I am starting to sense a theme…
Clothing/Toy Slave: Will provide fetish wear and/or toys for the dungeon and serve according to the contract.
If you read this, wouldn’t you get a bit suspicious? You require slaves to serve for the most part the only thing you can come up with is them giving you money or buying you things. The other duties will simply be in the contract. Granted, they then list all of their fetishes and specialties, but their inability to come up with tasks for three of their categories other than “give me money” really cracked me up. Combine this with complaints about fakes and I’m guessing these positions will remain unfilled.
My profiles aren’t perfect. My photos aren’t either. I can see many flaws in my work, so I try not to openly bash others unless something glaring and hilarious pops up.
Episode 22: Financial Domination Part 2
In today’s episode I delve into my personal philosophy of Financial Domination. In my opinion the reason so many dom/mes fail at financial domination is they don’t know why they are doing it and aren’t honest with their intentions. I normally don’t like discussing too many secrets, but in the end, I don’t think this is much of a secret nor do I think this is a universal philosophy. Perhaps it will let those on both sides of the coin understand why they are into it a bit more and maybe grasp their own philosophy of financial domination. Anything is better than reading more about pay pigs, piggies, human ATMs, wallet rape, etc.
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Opening music is Ghosts 19 by Nine Inch Nails off the album Ghosts I-IV
Episode 19: “I Can Relocate”
Every dom/me hears the phrase “I can relocate” from a would be slave. Whether they are a professional, lifestyle or somewhere in between, everyone gets this. Why do these three words mean the submissive is completely delusional? What do I think when I hear it? This episode covers the underlying reasons why so many submissives on Collarme, Fetlife and elsewhere are so quick to tell you they will uproot just to serve.
Episode 18: Roleplay Part 1
Roleplay is a really difficult topic to discuss and even introduce. There’s so many facets to it, I’ve tried and failed once in the past to record an acceptable introduction to roleplay. There’s also so many ways to roleplay and get in character that it is easy to come off as saying my way is the right way. It’s not, it is just the way I find roleplay sessions to work the best for me. So if you are interested in roleplay, how I roleplay and some of the stranger roleplays I have done lately, listen up! (Well, if you are interested in fetish roleplay. This will not help you play Final Fantasy or Dungeons and Dragons.)
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Opening music is Ghosts 19 by Nine Inch Nails off the album Ghosts I-IV.